That seems obvious. I’m wondering if there’s any better ways to do it without risking too much disappointment.

Hmmmmmmmmm……. wow, never thought of that…. However I don’t think that will work. I was hoping someone would advise me to slaughter a lamb and paint its blood on the wall in old Latin that says “Sorry babe, I’m not really feeling like going to the party tonight, please don’t be upset.”

Though I appreciate your incredibly insightful advice on how to approach this conversation.

She hasn’t bought anything for this. We didn’t even know we were going until yesterday.

I definitely am lol. I love socializing and getting to see my friends. They’re pretty much the only “family” I have out here. But I often agree to attend events, then come the day of, I don’t feel like going through with it. I just feel bad that this might affect my girlfriend’s night.

I’ll try to think of a fun alternative and propose that to her.

Exactly. She wants to do these things as dates with her bf, but he doesn’t reciprocate. So she wants to then go do these things with other men, but suddenly it’s no longer a date.

Why even date someone who doesn’t like doing these things with you?

They can do other things with their partners too… My girlfriend goes on hikes with her friends who are in relationships all the time and knows I also enjoy hiking.

I think it’s strange that you feel it would need to be a male friend. If my girlfriend came up to me and said she wanted to do more activity based dates, then tell me that she’s going to do said activities with male friends specifically, I’d consider that a big red flag.

Why would you need to go with a male friend? You have absolutely no female friends who would do things with you?