Have you tried a custom size? Is it too tight?

So then why say that at all? This answer makes everything infinitely worse. You basically just said that you did find her a 6/10 because you’re used to a white demographic. You then slowly changed your “rating” to “the most attractive” because you learned to love her body and ethnicity/race. Ick.

ETA: I think people can initially not find someone as attractive, but really like their partner’s core; the attraction can grow as you become more intimate and grow the relationship. In this context, given OP’s answers, this is only surface level and not focused on the actual connection between them.

It’s over. Why the fuck would you ever consider saying this to her - or anyone? What did you hope to gain by telling her?

“She likes classical romantic stuff but I find it kind of cringe so I don’t do them”.

Are you serious, OP? But SHE finds it special; it’s not always about you. It doesn’t have to be a big gesture or all of the time. I think it’s sad that you don’t inherently want to plan something cute to make her smile. This seems like a big opportunity to “make it up to her.” But I think anything you say or do is futile and I question how much you actually like your gf.

I forgot that you’re 36, not a teenager. Grow up.

I started typing what you said, but I didn’t have the energy lol

20 year olds are somewhat naive in life and relationships. Her brain isn’t fully developed regarding impulse control and decision making - this is something you can’t change and will effect your relationships and her actions/responses. As a 30 year old man, you’re going to deal with a lot of anxiety and stress as she grows, establishes herself/ego, and makes mistakes. That’s part of growing up…making mistakes. Y’all are clearly at different life stages.

All you can do is talk about safety and I hope her friend and she have each other’s backs.

Also, just because she came onto you, doesn’t mean you were obligated to reciprocate.

Bad things about her: 12

Good things about her: 4

I think you should move on.

Your husband is emotionally stunted and has poor communication skills. This could also be compounded by some other mental illness or unresolved trauma. Regardless, he can’t even apply himself in a simple class, what are you realistically going to be able to do to get him to change?

Nothing. You’re doing all you’re able to do. I don’t know what else Reddit can suggest; listen to your therapist. Actions speak louder than words.