Been there done that. Best advice? My guilt was so bad after I got clean that at times I would just have tears coming down my face and I’m a guy. The guilt fucked with me for a while so I fully understand. What worked for me? I learned that everyone makes mistakes and that growing up I didn’t have a good upbringing and I realized why I went to opiates to forget the shit that’s in my life. I’m a human who made mistakes. Who realizes it now and wants to make it better. So what I’m saying is only time and the realization that it wasn’t really your fault you can’t blame yourself fully. I used to buy then I understood why I did what I did. I’m human, your human. Let it go through you and understand your a human who made mistakes. I don’t know if you also went through shit like I did when I was young but it doesn’t matter your human it happened. Let it through you feel it and time will make you understand. It’s all about once your clean are you the same shitty person or good to yourself and those who are around you that counts. Once you clean up and change who it made you became and learn it’s from certain things it happened the guilt will go. Right now I have no guilt at all. But at one point just thinking of my family I start tearing till my tear ducts dry. I’m good now knowing why and I haven’t shed a single tear. It just takes time and for you to realize the truth. I know it’s hard because society doesn’t help it just always make you feel like your the problem your the criminal your the bad one but in reality we are victims and now that I know this I don’t have guilt BUT I now make sure I do my best for my family and good people around me and I have cut off everyone whose bad or a peace of shit and there lot of those always in our lives. Good luck wish you the best. Don’t let your guilt put you in a while I was in for a long time where I always feared or cried and let it get the best of me please it’s a dark place I was in for a while before I learned this. So best of luck msg me if you need any help talking through anything.
jumpship88 t1_ja3oa3h wrote
Reply to LPT request: Can anyone give me a couple ideas or things to try, that might alleviate some of the guilt and shame I (28F) feel? by magdeedz
Been there done that. Best advice? My guilt was so bad after I got clean that at times I would just have tears coming down my face and I’m a guy. The guilt fucked with me for a while so I fully understand. What worked for me? I learned that everyone makes mistakes and that growing up I didn’t have a good upbringing and I realized why I went to opiates to forget the shit that’s in my life. I’m a human who made mistakes. Who realizes it now and wants to make it better. So what I’m saying is only time and the realization that it wasn’t really your fault you can’t blame yourself fully. I used to buy then I understood why I did what I did. I’m human, your human. Let it go through you and understand your a human who made mistakes. I don’t know if you also went through shit like I did when I was young but it doesn’t matter your human it happened. Let it through you feel it and time will make you understand. It’s all about once your clean are you the same shitty person or good to yourself and those who are around you that counts. Once you clean up and change who it made you became and learn it’s from certain things it happened the guilt will go. Right now I have no guilt at all. But at one point just thinking of my family I start tearing till my tear ducts dry. I’m good now knowing why and I haven’t shed a single tear. It just takes time and for you to realize the truth. I know it’s hard because society doesn’t help it just always make you feel like your the problem your the criminal your the bad one but in reality we are victims and now that I know this I don’t have guilt BUT I now make sure I do my best for my family and good people around me and I have cut off everyone whose bad or a peace of shit and there lot of those always in our lives. Good luck wish you the best. Don’t let your guilt put you in a while I was in for a long time where I always feared or cried and let it get the best of me please it’s a dark place I was in for a while before I learned this. So best of luck msg me if you need any help talking through anything.