I’m 35 and have no social media. I have never understood the appeal and have absolutely no interest in putting my life out there. If my friends/family want to know how I’m doing, they can call me.

There have been a few women in my life who think it’s a red flag, and it just showed we aren’t compatible. If you feel the same, then leave. The fact he doesn’t have social media isn’t inherently a red flag.

You’ve made it clear that you have limits to the emotional intimacy you’re willing to share with him, which is entirely up to you. It’s his choice whether to remain with you after knowing this.

If you’re going to stay with her, then there is nothing you can do man. She’s going to do whatever she wants no matter how it makes you feel.

A lot of people here saying he shouldn’t talk to her about anything besides work, but that’s not practical. Keeping work relationships held back to that degree will be detrimental to his career.

It seems he’s subtly telling her he isn’t interested. If he keeps that up, she’ll lose interest soon enough.

You only have two options man, you either get over it or you break up. It sucks that she told you all of this, but you asked, so you’re both in the wrong here. Having said that, she can’t change the past.

But I’ll tell you, at your age, I wouldn’t have gotten over it either. It just is what it is. Social stigma is pretty powerful at your age and it’s tough to be the bigger guy and act like it doesn’t bother you.

If you do break up with her, don’t shame her for her actions. Just say it’s all on you and you can’t get over it. You need more experience and to work on yourself. It is what it is, and this relationship isn’t worth living with the stress and anxiety that comes with it.

Good luck man

It’s perfectly reasonable for him to lose attraction after a lot of weight gain. That’s life.

He stuck with you while you were hurt right? While you’re recovering in a wheelchair and going through PT, he was by your side? Was he helpful and supportive during that time?

The fact he says he would be worried about what his friends think is honestly weird as hell. It’s one thing to lose attraction, but it’s completely different to be ashamed of you and worry about the social consequences of having an overweight GF.

Ahh gotcha.

Also looked up the difference between broccoli rabe and broccolini and it’s pretty surprising.

I think that’s broccoli rabe, no?

I mean, it’s over. She doesn’t care about you and she’s doing everything in her power to show you she doesn’t care about you.

The only question in this entire scenario is why you’re still with her?

Why do you let him do this to you?

This is a tough one. I kinda got the feeling he wanted to hang out with you more based on him making plans and the fact that you were probably willing to have sex with him in the future if he put some effort in. He may be trying to play it cool by not texting you too soon. Maybe by Wednesday he will text to set something up.

However, he kinda sounds like a loser too. If you're pretty, I definitely think you can do better than this tool doing "balloons" in his car (I assume those are filled with nitros oxide? In my day, we called them whippets and they were mainly done by homeless people).

There are definitely guys out there who have experience and would want to take you out and show you off and be proud to be hanging with you. My suggestion is to find one of them and make your first time with someone who shows an ounce of respect and charm (this guy has about as much charm as a rock). Even if you want to get it over with and get over that hump (pun intended), there are definitely better options for you.