I disagree. Honestly I would work on just loving yourself, having healthy and fulfilling friendships, and making your life full of things that make you happy. I’m not discounting your desire for intimacy, but you truly have to give yourself all the love you need first to be an asset to someone else. And I say that as someone on the “right side of the bus” without ever having dated. My worth isn’t measured by other people thinking that I am worthy of their affection.

I was in that spot for a while, but I realized that by Changing my thoughts about myself and encouraging good behavior (positive reinforcement), I became more of the person I wanted to be. Instead of punishing myself, I coached myself lovingly on behaving well and cheered myself when I did. Within a matter of weeks, I switched from intense self loathing to loving myself everyday because I believe I am a great person who tries to do good in my core. I am worthy of love from myself because I am trying my best.