I hope you are getting treated for depression- it’s super super common after heart surgery, even in people not already dealing with it. Also, many of the meds they likely have you on can lower libido and make you tired and blah. I hope they also have you in cardiac and pulmonary rehab?

This was an outside board of review that found the allegation credible. Would you hire someone to babysit your kid who had been accused of child sexual abuse?

This assumes that the abuse was reported in a timely fashion, in a way where it could be investigated and prosecuted. In this case it was reported decades later, as were many sexual abuse cases regarding the church. There is probably very little way to prove anything at that point. However, the Catholic Church had a review board evaluate the accusation, and that board found the claim to be "credible and substantial".

So, does the charity assume he is innocent despite the church finding the claim to be credible? Best case, guy gets to keep working for the charity. Worst case, children are sexually assaulted. Or, does the charity decide to err on the side of caution - with best case being kids are protected from a predator, worst case being an innocent man has to work for a non child related charity instead of one dealing with kids.

You'd think an honorable man, given the situation, would find a different type of work, to avoid, as the Catholic church itself might say, "the appearance of evil".

So someone accused of child abuse should be fine to work with kids? Would you want your kid spending time with someone accused of this? I didn’t say the man should be stoned or kept from all jobs, in exile. But there are plenty of jobs and roles he can play that don’t put him with kids .

Yeah, but if I’m running a charity I’m pretty sure I hire the guy who wasn’t accused.

Are some of her books better/worse? I’ve read a few that I enjoyed, Heartbones and Reminders of Him in particular, but after those didn’t like even the plot description on the back covers to read any of her others.

lol, we joke that our coonhound mix (also has bloodhound and a bit of newfoundland of all things) is a GREAT hound, but a terrible dog. He's not really terrible, but NOT an easy breed. Or maybe it was that he had a lot of baggage when we got him? He was bred in GA somewhere, given to an elderly man in North Georga, who then took him to a shelter. A rescue group in Florida took him in, he was in two foster homes, then adopted, then returned, back to another foster, and then to us. All by 12 weeks of age. He was "reverse crate trained" in that he'd walk across the room to go into his crate to pee - I'm guessing because he'd been kept in a crate 8 hours plus a day by the people that adopted him, so he learned to pee in there. Or from being in a cage at the shelter. He also HATED the crate - he gets car sick easily and was in a crate the whole ride from North Georgia to Central Florida so maybe associated it with being sick, plus then with being kept in it too long, etc. Hardest dog I ever had to train, and he just didn't pay much attention to humans for the longest time. Now he's a sweet heart, but of course will go out at night and bark at any creature he spots - if there are no creatures up in trees to bark at he will and does bark at birds flying overhead, planes, helicopters (will jump into the air as if he might catch it!) and a few times, the moon itself. Sigh.