What you are wanting is an advanced directive. This tells the health team who can make choices for you, if you are unable yourself, and a good AD will say what choices you want made. I really like this one that a local hospital has as a template.

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For clarity:

A DNR is a Do Not Resuscitate. This only applies to if your heart is unable to function enough to keep you alive, do you want them doing CPR and all the things to get your heart going again.

A DNI is Do Not Intubate. This only applies if your lungs aren't able to support you on their own, do you want to be ventilated.

"Pull the plug" usually means that you have already been resuscitated and intubated and you turn off the ventilator that doing your lung's job.

I read somewhere that your first though is what you were taught to think and your second thought it what you actually think. (It was worded better though).

This helped me accept and reflect on those initial judgments. To be able to notice that I thought something negative, then follow-up with it and correct myself internally. The more I did this the more the judgy thoughts felt like my own and the less common they became.