lapsangsouchogn t1_j6kpgcx wrote

Do you like the person you are in this relationship? This isn't about liking or loving him. This is about how you feel as a person when you're with him. Do you feel like you're growing in all the ways you wanted to when you were a new adult? That you're becoming the person you want to be in life?

You can't live your life in service to another person's insecurities. And it sounds like neither of you are happy in this relationship.


lapsangsouchogn t1_j6iklam wrote

If you have the recipient's email at hand before you start and don't want to look for it later, put it in the cc: line and leave the main recipient blank. You can drag it into place once you're done writing.

I do this when I have to consult multiple documents before sending a summary.


lapsangsouchogn t1_ixqlwx3 wrote

I know people who think they need to have all the same shared interests and beliefs for a relationship to work, but that sounds boring af to me. We're all individuals, and I don't need to be in a relationship with another me. I want each of us to be our individual selves and a couple.

You need a good common foundation, but I want someone who's the sugar to my spice and the spice to my sugar. Someone with mostly the same values but a different perspective. Healthy conversations and debate instead of a constant stream of "I agree!"

But to have that you need a tolerance for individuality, and an awareness that life will change and grow you into different people than you were when you started. Which is the way it's supposed to be.


lapsangsouchogn t1_iria6l1 wrote

Because his son grew up to be politically connected

EDIT: for those who don't like the source, here's the NY Times article.

Here's CBS

I'll let you look up the dozens of other articles on your own.

> Chesa Boudin was 14 months old when his parents were arrested over the Brinks robbery. He was raised by Bill Ayers, the Weather Underground founder who worked closely with Barack Obama. After graduating from Yale University, Boudin served as a translator for Venezuelan dictator Hugo Chavez. He worked as a public defender before his election to San Francisco district attorney.

> Chesa Boudin lobbied Cuomo last year to grant clemency to his father, saying he hoped the governor "will show courage and mercy."

> Boudin said on Monday that his "heart is bursting" from Cuomo’s decision. Boudin is part of a wave of left-wing prosecutors who swept into local office in recent years promising criminal justice reform. He has come under fire for releasing inmates and deferring prosecution for a variety of lower-level crimes. His critics have blamed the policies for a crime surge in the Bay Area.


lapsangsouchogn t1_irgqei9 wrote