Contradict no, but I make it clear that I think it's taboo. You want to misunderstand, sure but do it elsewhere. You don't want to give advice, you dont even want him to see me or speak to me. Yes I will have a good life and he will be in it too, so troll elsewhere because this is a serious post.

You foam at the mouth and troll too much. You need a lot of professional mental health help and you need to stop trolling my thread. You're insane if you think people can choose who they love. To each their own.

You came here to troll and because I didn't engage you're upset? To each their own. You clearly never had someone younger enter your life, so let's pray that never happens because that young person would be discredited just for being younger.

You are delusional to think that he is mindless and stupid. He is intelligent and mature, or else he would never be in my life. I realize that we are at different stages and this is why I asked my questions, but you seem ready to troll rather than give advice. A relationship might develop because of the experiences we already share. He wants something to work and I am wondering if it is smart to shut down love when I like him too.

What are you saying ? That I should ghost him because he is younger ? That is messed up. Look I do not like that he is younger but he is sweet and I will spend more time with him before considering dating him.

No I don't, you are confusing what I said. He is the one telling me he loves me dearly. Yes we have to be together to spend time with each other, I didn't say together as a couple. I am now asking if I should remain friends with him since most replies here are saying we shouldn't. I don't see it being a problem being friends. He doesn't either, but he likes dropping hints.

It seems like you want to troll instead of offer advice. That seems insane, since you want to write off love for some reason. I said I am torn because I feel like the whole thing is taboo because of one factor. Either way we are both very happy together. I am asking advice about remaining friends with him. How did act in it? We never kissed on the mouth and I don't remember holding his hand.

He makes me feel nice. We haven't kissed anywhere other than on the cheeks and we like hugging. Hand holding would be normal since we like touching each other. I am not going to act on it.

No. I am asking if it is wise to continue being friends with him. I am not interested in being his girlfriend. I do enjoy being with him and the way he makes me feel. Why does that make you think boyfriend and girlfriend ?

I am and I did. I cannot control if he wants a relationship, and that he already started building one. He is sweet to me because he cannot help it, and I tried to ignore it but guys like that are rare at any age. He is very caring and loving. If he was looking for sex it would be different. He isn't rushing. He made it clear he wants to be in my life for a long time.

I don't see why your jumping to the conclusion that things will automatically become sexual. Why is he not allowed to be in my life ?

He doesn't act like this with women his age. He is delighted that we have a bond. What do you think I am entertaining?

Yes I see that but he seems impatient. Why do you think I am going to tie him down? What about his behavior?

I did, but not anymore because he is now in my life. My options are less because I chose to engage with him. We enjoy spending time together and getting to know each other. What he cannot control is who he loves, so I accept his love.

No. I am saying he is and adult, not a child. He is not immature and doesn't look like a child either.

This is what I think about when I realize he is different. He would have thought I was too immature if he was 21 when I was. We had completely different values and I also did not have the strong faith I do now. He is part of that, and it is something we bonded over and he helped bring out. I was not mature like him at that time and didn't want marriage minded relationships until right about this age. He acts like he's in his 30s and is structuring his life in that way. He is far from stupid, so he knows what he is doing. What makes you think he is naive and stupid in who he tells he loves and who he invests his time in? Why do you think he is unable to make decisions for himself ?

He is far from a child. He towers over me and is mature beyond his years. He has been very positive in my life. Now you're saying a fully grown man cannot be held accountable for his behavior ? He is not a kid and does not live like one. I am not sure why he is not stopping but I am not feeding into it. I pushed him away in the past and he got us through that. He loves that we are exactly ten years in age difference, and is not afraid of it. I want to spend more time with him because he is a great person. I have reservations about dating him. You make it seem like he is not allowed to be my friend or that he is out of control, yet you place no accountability in his behavior. He is the one acting this way, to make me feel more comfortable with him. Yet you don't ask why, and instead blame me for not shutting people who care about me out of my life for something he cannot control.

I like him but not his age. If he was my age it would be different. Yes he won't leave me alone but you put all the blame on me. You don't address his behavior. You don't think it is gross he is behaving that way towards someone older than him ?

Asking for validation would be saying that I am considering dating him. I am not. I am acknowledging that he was acting like a boyfriend and wants to keep this dynamic going, but because I like who he is I do not know if I should go along with this because we are both marriage minded.

Are you saying I am in denial ? This whole time I was fine with believing him and are just friends and it will never go past that. You make it seem like he is ready to hump my leg if I don't cut him off.

They are. There is no reason to cut him of because I like him and he likes me. Our mutual friends tried to set me up with two guys that are around his age, and were confused as to why I wouldn't want to date them. Defining someone by their age is wrong, especially when I got to know the person.

Why are you saying he is aggressively flirting ?

I blocked because he is younger and I thought he was just a horny younger guy but he showed me his is very mature and capable of loving me. I like how he makes me feel, and he likes how I respond to how he is with me. It is hard for us to ignore this. I won't be blocking him.

Interesting point, and that is one thing that which would remind me he is not mature. He did not understand why I wanted boundaries or space from him. He would get pretty upset when I would push him away. Blocking him will make me look awful because he have a lot of mutual friends.

It is easy to just keep friendzoning him but it is hard to ignore his love for me or him flirting.

I didn't like it before, I tried blocking him but he found a way around it and apologized for his stalker like behavior. He could not understand why I did not like his attention and said he just loves me and wants to be there for me.

I am asking advice because I can. I am not going to block him because he was there for me countless times when I least expected it, and showed me that he can be a great guy in NY life despite his shortcoming that he has no control over. I want to be with him, but I am concerned about him wanting something more.

He likes my energy, vibe, goals, pictures, being with me, my values, emotionally supporting me, seeing me, hearing about my life, being there for special moments, and that we share the same birthday. I do not think it is a forced connection. Him and I are ready for the same things because our faith pushes for us to marry fast and have kids young, which I know he's eager to do since he made it clear that we share that as a value. He does not see me as too old, because I am not, but I see him as too young. Guys his age are a huge turn off and I thought he was like that too until he showed me who his and what he wants to be for me.