Leave. Save the lady that you are with the pain of losing you and bits of herself later when you both figure out it is not going to work and that it never could no matter what each did.
If you were committed, you wouldn't have looked at the other a second time.
I don't mean to be harsh and I am not judging you.
As someone who was strung along for a decade with countless flings from the other party, I'd have preferred him to leave me in the beginning when there were doubts than the years I had spent thinking what can I do? How can I be better?
I spent so much of my life with someone who never really did love me fully and neither of us are to blame.
He wanted to, but he couldn't and eventually he found what he needed in another and that was our end.
Save her and you from all that and leave.
lemonwitchie t1_je0jkcg wrote
Reply to TIFU by being myself i guess? by Dramatic_Fix_3577
Leave. Save the lady that you are with the pain of losing you and bits of herself later when you both figure out it is not going to work and that it never could no matter what each did. If you were committed, you wouldn't have looked at the other a second time. I don't mean to be harsh and I am not judging you.
As someone who was strung along for a decade with countless flings from the other party, I'd have preferred him to leave me in the beginning when there were doubts than the years I had spent thinking what can I do? How can I be better? I spent so much of my life with someone who never really did love me fully and neither of us are to blame. He wanted to, but he couldn't and eventually he found what he needed in another and that was our end. Save her and you from all that and leave.