Jesus have mercy

First chapter of White Oleander by Janet Fitch.

Almost impossible to change the terms=similar provisions.

No no no not in California!!!!

If you’ve been there more than a year it’s almost impossible to change the terms

In Freud’s terminology what you’re referring to is suppression, which is a conscious decision to compartmentalize in order to achieve specific goals. The psychological profile of Neitzsche would have given Freud a lot to work with, and I don’t think there are many affinities. Their approach to libido, for example, is completely opposite.

I don’t think so. Freud was so much about repression being the root of neurosis. He was for more unbridled expression, more decadence.

I thought this said “all circumcisions are temporary” which interestingly helped me dismiss the entire inspirational meme. Some things change your life forever, and minimizing that is just bypassing.

That’s an expression of the same othering perspective—I mean, of course it would be meaningful if my mother had the capacity to take responsibility for her part in things. I’m glad this book exists, it’s just not for people like me.

I read the sample that’s available online. I think it would be good for people to understand that this book presupposes some universality in experiences of mothers—that there is a duality to the mother daughter relationship, but it includes an expectation that if the daughter shares hurts the mother will attempt to soothe. As a person who does not have a mother with the capacity to be generous, I found this alienating. Parental estrangement is incredibly common in the west, and I was hoping this book might be broad enough to have tools for those of us with problematic parents. Unfortunately it is written from the perspective of someone who is not considering that one in five people has a parental estrangement. I felt very sad reading it, very othered.

I think people just really love queer love entering the world of prestige romance novels.