lrlandesa t1_j6na4p5 wrote

I’m surprised at the amount of criticism OP is getting. She’s right that 10% is too low and if you can’t afford to tip at least 15% then you probably shouldn’t go out to eat. Unfortunately servers rely on tips and a very low tip gives the impression that the service was poor.

That said I think OP should be clear ahead of time that she will not eat somewhere unless a fair tip will be given. They could even say that whoever pays for the food the other person tips so no one is left to cover it all. Also I don’t think being 19 is an excuse to not tip a fair amount but that’s just me.