madeoflime

madeoflime t1_iujotns wrote

A lot of young women, myself included, start getting hit on/cat called/male attention during puberty, ~ 10-13. This translates into “You are so mature for your age!” or “You developed into quite the woman now!”. They were lying to you.

I highly doubt you look like a 35 year old at 18. The only 18 year olds I’ve seen that look 20 years older than they actually are, are usually on drugs. And even if you do look older, you are not. You do not have the same experience as a 35 year old, developmentally, financially, and emotionally. Recognize that.

You are still very young. Guys your age are much more likely to love you for who you are, because you are at their level.

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madeoflime t1_iuj79iw wrote

You are 18, and I know you probably don’t quite feel like an adult yet, you are and you’re allowed to go on trips with other people by yourself. You don’t need your dads permission. It’s honestly even more gross that your dad doesn’t even allow you to hang out with your mom.

The unfortunate thing is that he might kick you out sooner than you’re ready, so I would think about how you’re going to separate yourself from your dad, because you’re going to have to be independent eventually. But I can guarantee that you do not want to be 24 and still have your dad control your life like this.

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