You can’t be surprised if he is online cheating when you literally told him point blank “you’re supposed to be the most important man in my life but you never will be”. Idk how people have such unhealthy views on relationships that they prioritize other people then don’t sleep beside every night, have intercourse “exclusively”, and literally vowed to be the most important to one another. Sounds like he loved you but you settled for him because of convenience. Which really shows how you probably over value yourself. Everything in life has trade offs. Pretty sure he traded some of his wants and needs to be with you. Sure he is online cheating but damn you’re doing the same with your best friend lol. This is coming from a man who’s best friend is a woman. I’ve told her plenty she matters the world to me but I’m not her number one anymore if she is going to commit to a man, then at best I can be top 10 if I’m lucky. She slowly realized I was right and prioritized her man. Overtime they grew closer, she changed a lot of her ways, and now has a son and is getting married to this guy in 6 months. They’ve been together for 3 years but I know the love they have for each other is something you don’t see in my generation anymore and I couldn’t be happier for them both.
Edit: the point was, do you think you’re doing everything you can to make your husband happy and feel like the center of your world? And I know it’s hard but don’t try to flip it on him and start the blame game. People all around have forgotten that they only can control themselves and what they do. Not others just because you point your finger and say “no but you”. The best thing I think to do is either face the fact that things will never be the best and you might need to walk away or you need to pin point what needs are missing for your your husband. Because only then can you truly have a valid argument over who is the wrong way one here. Not that you both haven’t done wrong but at least you tried to right your wrong.
TL:DR- Start with an apology, then start a very needed conversation about why he can’t stop online cheating, and what could you do to make him want more sex.
mcdirtyboii t1_jdxkgq4 wrote
Reply to TIFU by being drunk and unsatisfied with having sex with my husband by letter-gimmes
You can’t be surprised if he is online cheating when you literally told him point blank “you’re supposed to be the most important man in my life but you never will be”. Idk how people have such unhealthy views on relationships that they prioritize other people then don’t sleep beside every night, have intercourse “exclusively”, and literally vowed to be the most important to one another. Sounds like he loved you but you settled for him because of convenience. Which really shows how you probably over value yourself. Everything in life has trade offs. Pretty sure he traded some of his wants and needs to be with you. Sure he is online cheating but damn you’re doing the same with your best friend lol. This is coming from a man who’s best friend is a woman. I’ve told her plenty she matters the world to me but I’m not her number one anymore if she is going to commit to a man, then at best I can be top 10 if I’m lucky. She slowly realized I was right and prioritized her man. Overtime they grew closer, she changed a lot of her ways, and now has a son and is getting married to this guy in 6 months. They’ve been together for 3 years but I know the love they have for each other is something you don’t see in my generation anymore and I couldn’t be happier for them both.
Edit: the point was, do you think you’re doing everything you can to make your husband happy and feel like the center of your world? And I know it’s hard but don’t try to flip it on him and start the blame game. People all around have forgotten that they only can control themselves and what they do. Not others just because you point your finger and say “no but you”. The best thing I think to do is either face the fact that things will never be the best and you might need to walk away or you need to pin point what needs are missing for your your husband. Because only then can you truly have a valid argument over who is the wrong way one here. Not that you both haven’t done wrong but at least you tried to right your wrong.
TL:DR- Start with an apology, then start a very needed conversation about why he can’t stop online cheating, and what could you do to make him want more sex.