morostheSophist

morostheSophist t1_j80k87w wrote

Reply to comment by ambidextriousowl in [image] I think talking to ourselves like how the babysitter did with the girl, and having fun would be good for all ages! by Tonkinjg

I never liked kids, and never wanted to have any, but I have nieces and nephews, and they're the most amazing things. I love spending time with them. They look up to me way more than I deserve, and being around them makes me a better person.

Still never want to have my own kids, though--they're freaking exhausting.

Good on you for making sure you model good behavior for kids. Being mean is a terrible influence. They have their entire lives to learn about cruelty; I don't want any of it to come from me. Sounds like you've made a similar decision.

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morostheSophist t1_j80iq4k wrote

Reply to comment by HaysteRetreat in [image] I think talking to ourselves like how the babysitter did with the girl, and having fun would be good for all ages! by Tonkinjg

I'd say it's both. The kid clearly enjoyed the fun voice, but understood the commentary as play (i.e. not real). That's why she'd ask at the end of the night, "did you really like it?" Then she got direct, explicit positive reinforcement.

And those direct comments were probably taken to heart. Kid probably used those to focus more on specific parts of her work. Little kids can be surprisingly perceptive long before they develop adult intellect, focus, and sensibilities.

I would definitely say this was an "it's both" situation.

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