I think you know that’s not what I said. Not putting it into the same place first is not putting marriage first. Having personal bank accounts is not bad.

If personal account first, then shared, that’s putting money first.

If shared account first, then personal, that’s putting marriage first.

That’s right. We’re a team and we do everything together. Money is just a tool. We have “fun money” that’s our own but everything we make goes through our budget and bank account. We’re not “partners”, we’re married. Business partners care about money first. Married people care about each other first.