It sounds more like you have come up with a reason to keep yourself in this relationship. What he does or does not do is actually outside of your control. If you divorce him and then he decides to take his own life that's his decision not yours.

It really depends on the people. "Clubbing" means different things to different people. For example, I would be totally find with my girlfriend going clubbing without me. I trust her, I know her interests, and I know she would never do something selfish in the name of "fun" because she is mature.

My ex-girlfriend I absolutely would not have been okay with her going clubbing. Because her definition of clubbing was booty shorts, getting high, or getting drunk. In addition to being addicted to attention.

And as you can imagine this is why we broke up.

Well, I think that you should just express your concerns and look for a middle ground.

Honestly, drugs are stupid. And you should stop telling yourself that you need to do drugs to live life or have fun. All drugs are going to do is take away your ability to think and most likely result in some person taking advantage of you. Not to mention the various potential impacts they can have on your health.

But going to festivals and drinking with you totally should be something he should do with you. Even attending a party every now and then should not be a big deal.

From what I'm reading I think that the two of you might benefit from some type of couples counseling book. I hate to insert stereotypes but it's very atypical for a male to not be attracted to a woman if he is straight. Regardless of what that woman looks like.... And with you being curvy as you have described yourself it's even harder to believe that you would not be attracted to you.

That's why I'm suggesting maybe there's something that needs to be communicated between the two of you that is not being communicated. For example, he could have some trauma, secret, fear, something has to be causing this mindset.

This literally has nothing to do with what she is asking advice for. And it's inherently a untrue statement. Someone being 11 years younger does not absolve them from having problems like this.

As someone who writes contracts and policies every day. You think that what you discussed was clear once again but I'm telling you that it was not.

For example "offset in other areas" what does that mean?

Does it mean extra sex? And how do you define extra sex? Your expectations obviously we're not met so unless she was intentionally trying not to meet them there was some type of breakdown in communication.

I'm not saying that this is right but when something is a social norm it's hard to say that something is "wrong".

It very much is still a social norm for the male in a MF relationship to take on a higher financial burden. The 50/50 model is an exception and a lot of women are conditioned to not think anything of it.

Part of the problem here is that you feel that this should be expected. And she obviously feels something else should be expected. And that's what happen when two people don't actually talk to each other about expectations.

I'm invested in this too now lmao.

Please post update about this.

I can't lol.

I would feel so ridiculous hitting on someone looking for jobs.

Well, all things considered.

LinkedIn probably has a higher grade of humans than Tinder does. I say just be straight forward and tell him that you want to move to another platform. Lol, he knew what he was doing.

Dudes are hitting on women on LinkedIn now lmao.

No place is safe.

I need to message a girl DAMNNN SHAWTYyy. I like a woman with 10 years of experience business intelligence.

But on a serious note asking him if he would like to talk someone more informal such as snap or text messages would not be unreasonable.

Homeboy got that

"WYD" text and answered the call to battle.

Some people get high on attention. She is obviously one of them. So if you choose to go into this then you are consenting to do things like text her every day and be obsessed with her. The mature part of my brain is telling you it's a horrible choice. And you will never be able to meet that expectation.

It sounds like you are the only person who is confused.

Your wife was cheating on you and has announced to the entire world that she is done with the marriage. And as an outsider it seems like you two would be better off as sex-partners and roommates than you would being committed to each other. And you even wrote that you wo are faking this for your kids.

Personally, I think you need to be a realist. I would look into a non-contested divorce with a written agreement to cohabitate for 3 years pending some major change to your current situation.

>I feel like I should never be jealous because I completely trust my BF

Eh.....

If you never feel jealous or protective of your spouse then you either are a robot or view them in a way that is not healthy. For example, let's flip the script here. Imagine if you had a picture on social media with some guy who had his hands around your waist.

Then you ran into that guy and he started hugging you.

Unless your boyfriend is into you with other guys his reaction is probably going to be WHO DA F is that guy? As would any reasonable person. And this is why we have boundaries in relationships.

For example, my wife is fine with me being friends with other women. But my wife is not fine with me doing things like being alone + drinking with other women. Or talking to women at really late hours.

>She didn’t get me anything*, which is ok cause i told her that i didn’t want anything*

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>Last week, she said that she wanted to take me shopping for my bday weekend but i said that it’s ok and i didn’t need anything*. I told her that i would rather just have her write a card and i didn’t need anything.*

Telling someone that you don't need anything. And then telling them "I would rather" leave your communication up to misinterpretation. You never actually said I want you to do x.

This is such an extreme reaction.

Cool, you have other options. But someone being to busy should not result in you cutting them out your life.

Moral of the story.

People get a high on attention and someone being interested in them.

It's okay to be jealous in a relationship. And it's okay to voice whether or not you feel comfortable with your partner doing things with certain people. Because at the end of the day he is dating you and not the other girl. I would just tell him that you do not prefer that he has physical contact with her in the future.

The first step is to stop boo-hooing and realize that your birthday is just another day.

If you want something special to happen on that day you need to clearly communicate what your desires are. I could interpret what you told her as "He doesn't actually want anything".

And we can't know why she isn't talking to you without more information.

The actual problem here is the lack of commitment.

For example, I physically "prefer" women that don't have the body type of my wife and I always have. But that doesn't make it okay to invalidate the commitments I made to her and emphasize my fantasies over her.

Because then I'm no longer happy with the person that I have.

My fiancé wants to cheat on me.

That's what this post needs to say.

Driving a new way home to see if it's faster is an experiment. You are testing to see if a desired outcome is true or not.

What outcome does sleeping with a guy present him with if he is bisexual? Is he trying to confirm whether or not he likes women? Or his he just trying to "live life" before he gets married?

Personally, I would call this marriage off.

There always is going to be someone who has been in a similar situation and made it work unless it's something REALLY weird. With that being said there also are people who did not make it work.

So you have to decide what you want.

If you want monogamy then you need to break up and be with someone who wants what you want including the sexual aspect of a relationship. You aren't wrong for wanting your partner to want you sexually.

But I personally say try out his offer first if you are going to break up with him.

Given your in-post justifications why would there even be a doubt? You basically posted the question then defended that you are just friends. Finding out from you or someone else isn't going to make you any less pregnant.