nonrebreather t1_j62ybt0 wrote

First off, happy birthday! You're going to have many more, and some of the most special ones will be spent with people who aren't your family.

There's nothing that justifies their behaviour, and it's not your fault for expecting the minimum you'd do in their place. I hope you know that every normal person can tell how wrong what they did was. You do deserve better, and some day you will have better.

You're allowed to feel bad about this, but please don't feel like this has anything to do with who you are.

It sounds like you've been doing really well for yourself. Be proud of that, recognize your accomplishments, and keep doing well for yourself. <3