I mean I'm not saying it's wrong or that people shouldn't write it or read it, I'm saying that sometimes I don't want to read it right now.

And I'm sick of people acting like I'm taking a moral stance when I just occasionally just don't want to read about hate directed at myself. When I ask for a book rec without themes of misogyny I'm tired of people acting like I want to ban misogynistic characters. I just want to have fun without being reminded of real world misogyny sometimes. If I want an escapist fantasy from the real world sometimes misogyny is what I want to escape from. If I want to read a book with misogynistic characters or themes I can pick up almost any book.

I find this sort of thing can ruin a book for me too! I don't really care if it's "realistic for the character" like some people like to say in response to these complaints, if it's unpleasant to read then I'm not having fun and I'd rather avoid it 🤷‍♀️