That’s what abusers used to justify taking other people’s love and showing none in return. I would not advise anybody getting tangled up with anyone in that way outside of a parent-child relationship. If someone treats you like garbage or fails to show you love that becomes a data point in your decision about your regard for them.

This sucks. I’m sorry this happened to you. What do they do once they have you on the phone thinking it’s your bank?

This is what cult weirdo keith raneire taught members of his harem to convince them that their objections to having sex with other people was their problem, and to convince them to take his abuse freely.