You should stop policing what your boyfriend can look at on his phone.

>I don't want this relationship anymore.

I don't blame you. This is some bullshit.

>Am I overacting?

The perfect reaction to this is breaking up. Or ghosting. Take your pick.

>Please keep in mind that this condition will never go away or "get better."

This is false. With therapy and treatment, people with BPD can shed the diagnosis.

>She told me that the guy kissed her but she didn't kiss back

Plus

>"I f**ked up, I kissed a guy".

Equals she lied to you.

Don't stay with a cheater that invites strange men beck to her place from the bar.

But you didn't share advice. You told your own story with zero help for OP.

>She texted back: “ Because I tried them on that one time and forgot about them and they’ve been in my bag since. I didn’t like them so I forgot all about them.

Why was she taking this lingerie to try on at work? Doesn't make much sense when she could try them on at home.

Nobody here needs you to be a devil's advocate.

>I dropped the charges despite the attorney telling me these things rarely work out and often only get worse.

Should've listened to the attorney.

>she's always so sorry and hates herself for those outbursts.

Of course she is, that's part of the cycle of abuse. If she was actually sorry, it wouldn't happen.

>About 6 months into the relationship, i find myself physically attacked. Oh right, i forgot to mention she's a recovering alcoholic. The angry kind. I've had to call the cops on her several times and the ambulance once. I've stopped her from cutting herself and had to intervene when she recently tried to stab herself to death in front of me because I expressed an interest in leaving the relationship due to all the unnecessary fighting. But she attacks me as well. I have bite marks on my arms and forehead. I have a broken pinky finger. I have scars from her clawing at me. I've never once laid a hand on her to hurt her. Not once. I've only ever stopped her from hurting herself or I've defended myself. The cops and paramedics have always been on my side.

What the actual fuck are you doing staying in the relationship?

>Does anyone know what this is?

I think the term is 'contrarian'

>Is this some kind of manipulation tactic?

Yes. Looks like your wife learned from the best.

This is who she is. Do you want to listen to complaining for the rest of your life?

Trying to pick people up in r/relationship_advice comments

Pathetic lol