I’m guessing his expensive habit is drugs.

He’s not a great guy. He steals from you and mooches off everyone else. You’re deluding yourself.

So you hit the club at like 11:30pm. Who cares if he sees you?

Why do you think that everyone who tells you he goes clubbing on the weekend is lying to you? What possible motive do multiple sources have to lie to you?

Why don’t you just ask whoever it is who sees him there to take a pic?

So, why are you still with him? This is who he is. It works for him. He’s not changing.

You’ve only been together 6 months. You should be delaying wedding planning for about a year and a half. You don’t even know each other.

No sparks isn’t “normal,” nor is the lack of desire to rip each other’s clothes off. That doesn’t mean that either of those things are absolutely necessary to a happy relationship.

You need to be together for a lot longer to figure out if what you have is sustainable.

Tell him you’re doing intermittent fasting and reaping the benefits as evidenced by your stable weight.

Huh. How did she find stuff on your phone after she walked out in you?

Don’t quit your day job.

I read Stephen King’s The Tommyknockers when I was in college. Actually, I should say I read most of it. It made me so paranoid that I was becoming agoraphobic, and I had to stop reading it.

It’s about social expectations. He’s in this world where he’s judged harshly for not being sad enough when his mother died. While murdering an Algerian brought him to trial, murder isn’t what convicted him.

He’s not a sociopath. He just doesn’t conform to social expectations.

No. The bit that is lost without context is that a white man would never, ever have been convicted of killing an Algerian. The trial was just a matter of form, and yet the hero damned himself in court. Why? Is there a greater sin than failing to love your mother?

This is weird. Don’t do this. She asks you out but can only see you at her work? Something is seriously off.

Are you paying for these dates?

Portrait of an Artist as a Young Man

But as far as you know, everything has ended. She’s not trying to get him to sneak off with her anymore. There’s no touching at parties. Nothing. Everything is over now. Everything. Is that right? And now you’re left to address the lies he told at the beginning of your relationship? Do you have kids?

Question: You’re certain that this all ended completely 4.5 years ago? Is she still hanging on your husband at events & being sexually inappropriate?

You tell him to leave. This isn’t the life either of you want, and it hasn’t been for a long time.

Breaking up is the answer even though it’s hard.

Not at the 9 month mark. When things go to hell (like this), it’s much more difficult to break up and walk away than it would otherwise be.

A boundary is usually about refusing to accept poor behavior from another - like, no cheating.

Control is about making someone else do something to your standards - like, dress the way I want you to, clean the house to my specifications.

Ask him why he KEEPS telling you this.

If she works, just get home before she does. Otherwise, you can use a crowbar to break in to a first floor window unless you have truly stellar window locks.

(When I was a kid, my uncle taught me how to B&E and how to hot wire a car. The window thing has been particularly useful through the years.)

But she can engage the safety bolt or the chain. She can prevent his entry.

You shall send your partner to her GP as she is exhibiting classic symptoms of depression.

You shall talk to her about what’s going on, and you shall ask how you can help.

You shall stop being judgmental.

You shall dig deep and summon a compassionate response to your partner’s apparent crisis.

Why do people move in together so quickly?

Yes, leave him.

Sheesh.

Ha! The problem is you like the new guy better than you like your bf. Whatever will you do?

You could move away & start over. It has to sound tempting, though scary.