This is a maturity moment. You wanted her to chase you so you felt important. She didn’t. You now want to make sure she knows the ball is in her court. What when she doesn’t make the play the way you want her to?

Many people don’t want to fight to make things work. They want to enjoy their lives. Nothing happened. You felt you weren’t a priority. She probably did feel like you were but you didn’t feel prioritized enough. So- you’re at an impasse.

If you want her back you have to accept who she is and how she loves. And then the ball is in your court. Nobody with self respect will chase someone who dumped them. That being said “I love what she could be”… don’t love for potential. People are going to grow into who they want to be- not who you want them to be. At 21 she still has a lot of growing to do (you do too)… love her for who she is or let her go.

Right. OP wants her to beg him back.

Are you playing games? You dumped her. You had a chance to work through things. You chose to dump instead. Now you want to put the ball back in her court to make her chase you? No. You ended it. Leave her alone.