rapkat55
rapkat55 t1_j9zfdma wrote
Reply to TIFU why me (29F) and my girlfriend (28F) talked about our marriage with his conservative family. by TIFUweddingday
Man I really wish my life was in such a place that things like this counts as a serious fuck up lol
rapkat55 t1_j8w9nyr wrote
Reply to comment by Chris_Vanilla in TIFU i crossed boundaries and betrayed his trust by going through his phone and found something and i cant just leave him by [deleted]
Toxic people looking for entertainment in other’s drama typically lack empathy.
rapkat55 t1_iufyfqx wrote
Reply to [Homemade] PBJ Pizza by meatybone
Honestly I’m usually not about pineapple on pizza but as a counter/combo to jalapeños it must taste godly.
rapkat55 t1_iue3eiu wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Gunmen attack major Shiite holy site in Iran, killing 15 by marketrent
What a terrible joke. If you had anyone you loved I don’t think you’d find it funny if people made fun of them dying over nothing.
The internets for everyone, just because I’m a decent person who can empathize doesn’t mean I have to shelter myself.
rapkat55 t1_iue2m3h wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Gunmen attack major Shiite holy site in Iran, killing 15 by marketrent
They absolutely do get backlash for it from healthy considerate people.
You must surround yourself in shitty echo chambers to not realize it my dude. I honestly hope you can find better ways to deal with whatever you’ve got going on.
rapkat55 t1_iudwk5n wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in Gunmen attack major Shiite holy site in Iran, killing 15 by marketrent
Innocent people were gunned down, making fun of that specific situation doesn’t make it better, it just makes you look insanely shitty and immature.
If you want to lighten your mood joke about other things ffs
rapkat55 t1_iu9lib7 wrote
Reply to LPT Request: how to deal with an emotionally draining friend I have to see on a daily basis by mercurysnowman
Consider that they might have mental illness/depression and ignore all these toxic and immature suggestions.
just be a human and have an honest heart to heart with them. If they handle it poorly then they will leave you alone on their own accord. This gives them autonomy and clarity to reflect and change things.
Seriously, dodging, ignoring or being passive aggressive to someone who is obviously going through some stuff is shitty and only prolongs the issue if not makes it worse. Confrontation doesn’t mean you have to argue or belittle, it just means to approach and engage. How you choose to approach is what determines the tone and outcome.
Even if it’s not your responsibility to fix them i think the world would be a much better place if people came from a place of understanding. We are not going to be fun and energetic when we are struggling immensely, and even if the struggle can’t be immediately fixed, honesty and genuineness can go along way to putting things in to perspective for everyone involved.
rapkat55 t1_iu44573 wrote
Reply to comment by OmniFella in LPT: If you have items that are precious, tell your adult children the story of those things far before death. Better yet, write it down and include it with the item. by AcroAmo
Idk I know that recording them under that context isn’t inherently wrong but personally it just feels weird to me
I would rather just have that genuine conversation. A real, private heart to heart that isn’t being mined for future playback.
rapkat55 t1_iu42roe wrote
Reply to comment by OmniFella in LPT: If you have items that are precious, tell your adult children the story of those things far before death. Better yet, write it down and include it with the item. by AcroAmo
Isn’t that illegal? Recording someone without consent ?
rapkat55 t1_javt4sh wrote
Reply to [Image] Thank you for reading this by pedro_pascal_123
Sounds good on paper.
In practice I am being a burden that no one really looks forward to dealing with and I need to be self aware and communicate that I’m aware of that in order to not seem needy/entitled and scare people away.