redditguy1974 t1_j89c7gt wrote on February 12, 2023 at 5:01 PM

Reply to comment by Vagabond_Girl in Large study provides evidence that goal incongruence can harm romantic relationship satisfaction by glum-platimium

I don't have any traveling bug any more. I spent over seven years of my career traveling. 60 international cities in 20 countries, and over 100 cities in the US, spending at least a week in each with plenty of time off. So I don't have any need to see any more. I am happy going, but I don't feel any need to. I'm much more of a home body and enjoy my time at home being productive.

I would tell anyone....if you are dating someone with true intent to travel the world, and you do not have that bug, you should break up. Because it will cause issues.

redditguy1974 t1_j8753gw wrote on February 12, 2023 at 3:28 AM

Reply to comment by Imaginary-Ad-9397 in Large study provides evidence that goal incongruence can harm romantic relationship satisfaction by glum-platimium

>Maybe she wants to roam the world, but you wanna get settled, and you two agree on everything else. Is that a deal breaker ?

This was our exact situation. It should have been a deal breaker. We settled down. This was almost 19 years ago. I still don't think she's ever forgiven me for "ruining her plans to travel the world". It caused years and years of resentment, and left her in a major depression.

redditguy1974 t1_j874da8 wrote on February 12, 2023 at 3:21 AM

Reply to comment by NittyGrittyDiscutant in Large study provides evidence that goal incongruence can harm romantic relationship satisfaction by glum-platimium

Go read around r/deadbedrooms for a bit. You will find that it is absolutely not true that men always want sex. You will find many, many women (or gay men) there lamenting the fact that their husbands/boyfriends never want sex.