robbyrandall
robbyrandall t1_je44605 wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRApleasehelpo in Should I (19f) end things with my unemployed bf (24m) by ThrowRApleasehelpo
This guy needs to feel like he's lazy and his feelings need to be hurt.
You don't get anywhere in life by being coddled
robbyrandall t1_iujwnhc wrote
Reply to comment by NetworkPlus2224 in I had a strong feeling to look through my fiancés phone last night… by [deleted]
That he is a hypocrite and a guy. These things can be both true. Good luck finding someone that doesn't look, the next guy will just be hiding it better.
robbyrandall t1_iuhtwl8 wrote
Money is her love language... Wow. It's not love
robbyrandall t1_je451cl wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRApleasehelpo in Should I (19f) end things with my unemployed bf (24m) by ThrowRApleasehelpo
Look, external motivation from you is very unlikely going to work, especially in the long term. He'll do some job searching and try to socialize, but that's only to try to please you. This guy is not getting any consequences of not trying. He has food, accommodation and a girlfriend. Why would he try to get change?
Whats best for you and what's best for him is pretty aligned. You say, thanks for all the memories, but I refuse to be dragged down with you. Goodbye
If you make it sound like it was your fault and not his, he's going to end up resenting you more and not get up and do something about his own situation