rpaul9578

rpaul9578 OP t1_iu4wfcq wrote

I'm not pretending that this is going to stop a person from committing a crime. I do believe that we don't talk enough in this country about the long-term effects of sexual abuse and we really need to. We need to share stories like this in order for people to see them who might be thinking about hurting a child. Who might be currently hurting a child. Thinking that it's not a big deal because they might not remember it or just not thinking through how this is going to affect them for the rest of their lives. These stories are important to share. It just might help somebody.

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rpaul9578 OP t1_iu2f0hq wrote

It looks like I can't message you directly but if you're interested and want to message me, I can share with you some resources that have pulled me out of depression. They have to do with dysfunction around relationships and attachment trauma. Our traumas are different but it could be helpful.

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rpaul9578 OP t1_iu2cbuf wrote

It breaks my heart that due to someone's selfishness and callousness that someone so great with so many gifts to give the world had to suffer so deeply and his life cut short. I want to put it on billboards for people to see the result of SA in people's lives. That it is a very big deal.

While nothing I say is going to take that away for you, please know that you are just as worthy as anyone to call a crisis hotline. You have just as much a chance as anyone to steer yourself out of a crisis.

I have struggled with depression on and off for most of my life and what helped me is educating myself on the things that I was struggling with. Whatever I was feeling I put into the search bar on YouTube and watched videos of people talking about that emotion. I found blogs and YouTube channels that help to educate me on the things that I needed help with like relationships and attachment disorder. I feel like anything that we struggle with can be overcome with wisdom. Perhaps my techniques might help your situation.

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rpaul9578 t1_is5fyc4 wrote

Can you go to a library to work?

Also look up the term gray rock. That is how you deal with people like your parents. You don't respond you say as little as possible and you become a gray rock. That way you're not feeding into the problem and they can't get a rise out of you and get some satisfaction from doing so.

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