This kind of thing is common when not speaking your native language, don't worry about it. There are so many false friends and near misses that are going to trip you up along the way.
The worst thing you can do when you embarrass yourself speaking another language is to shut down and stop speaking. It's easier said than done, but if you can find a healthy way to deal with this kind of embarrassing situation, it'll serve you really well long term.
Some people are very earnest and like to ask for feedback on their mistakes, and other people like to just laugh it off, but what's important is just to not to internalise it too much.
Don't think "I'm saying the wrong things because I'm bad at English", think "these situations will happen when someone is learning a new language".
I know this is just a TIFU, and you're probably not really beating yourself up about it in reality, but I'm kinda speaking to the gallery here. I know a lot of ESL people irl and this kind of thing will occasionally seriously knocks someone's confidence, and ends up halting their progress for weeks.
Best bet by far to get the necklace back is by appealing to his mum to convince him to give it back as part of an apology. The legal route is pretty shaky, and also likely to be expensive.
saltyholty t1_j0g5o8i wrote
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This kind of thing is common when not speaking your native language, don't worry about it. There are so many false friends and near misses that are going to trip you up along the way.
The worst thing you can do when you embarrass yourself speaking another language is to shut down and stop speaking. It's easier said than done, but if you can find a healthy way to deal with this kind of embarrassing situation, it'll serve you really well long term.
Some people are very earnest and like to ask for feedback on their mistakes, and other people like to just laugh it off, but what's important is just to not to internalise it too much.
Don't think "I'm saying the wrong things because I'm bad at English", think "these situations will happen when someone is learning a new language".
I know this is just a TIFU, and you're probably not really beating yourself up about it in reality, but I'm kinda speaking to the gallery here. I know a lot of ESL people irl and this kind of thing will occasionally seriously knocks someone's confidence, and ends up halting their progress for weeks.