snailsniffers
snailsniffers t1_jad8dic wrote
Reply to comment by Real_Secret7770 in My [22M] GF [22F] of almost 4 YEARS is considering breakup after she found me complimenting a girl's hair on Snapshat, what should i do. by Real_Secret7770
Sorry I misinterpreted it as cheating. It's not always the case but its a known thing that if someone starts suspecting you it might be because they're behaving badly themselves
snailsniffers t1_jad56sm wrote
Reply to My [22M] GF [22F] of almost 4 YEARS is considering breakup after she found me complimenting a girl's hair on Snapshat, what should i do. by Real_Secret7770
Red flag is her taking your phone and checking out your messages in the first place
You've done nothing wrong. Do you want a lifetime of her being insecure, checking on any interaction you have with women, and potentially cheating on you again anyway?
snailsniffers t1_jacwyd7 wrote
Reply to My BF (23M) wants to spend a whole year job searching then doing nothing. This feels crazy to me (23F) and it’s causing massive disagreements between us. by ThrowRAchickglass
If he's fairly laid back and is pretty average when it comes to things in general... I'd be really worried about your future together. Is he going to have the 'less ambitious' approach when it comes to household tasks when you live together?
snailsniffers t1_jacn93k wrote
If you have children in the future and she gets annoyed at them what is she going to do? Lock them in a room so she doesn't have to face them?
snailsniffers t1_jacis1g wrote
Reply to comment by dj26458 in Me (28f) can't keep living with my Husband (29m) like this anymore. by [deleted]
Allowing someone to treat you like shit by saying they're depressed doesn't help either.
snailsniffers t1_jacgo37 wrote
Reply to comment by dj26458 in Me (28f) can't keep living with my Husband (29m) like this anymore. by [deleted]
I'm literally unemployed due to the severity of my (bipolar) depression. I understand what it is.
Mental illness is an explanation, not an excuse.
Edit to add: if he is capable of working and playing video games, he is capable of helping at least a little bit. Him struggling and not being able to 100% complete tasks as usual is understandable. Completely neglecting OP and leaving her to do all the tasks when she literally cannot see? He isn't even apologising to her for it. Anyone with depression would feel shit that they're unable to help, and would say something about it.
snailsniffers t1_jacesmf wrote
Reply to comment by o0Ambrosia0o in Me (28f) can't keep living with my Husband (29m) like this anymore. by [deleted]
Have a sit down with him, explain that the chores are not just your responsibility, that you're suffering. That you're literally sick right now and he should be stepping up.
Then you'll not be able to say he doesn't see it.
I am literally unemployed due to my mental health being so severe. I still support my SO where I am able to (with reasonable adjustments and understanding on worse days). His potential depression isn't an excuse.
snailsniffers t1_jaccoq6 wrote
His potential depression is an explanation but not an excuse.
He can see that you're suffering but is making the choice not to help you.
snailsniffers t1_jadywrc wrote
Reply to comment by Leather-Worry-7517 in Gf (25F) blocks me (29F) everytime she gets mad at me by Leather-Worry-7517
I'm glad you can see this for yourself.