He's right. It's the self-destructive attitude line Captain Ahab had in Moby Dick which references are sprinkled about.

Frasier destroyed his relationship with his family due to his partner committing suicide. You also get a redemption arc with the teen going down that same path but in the end he returns home. He does that by listening to the girl.

True Romance with the xylophone song

Yup, we have wooden barns constructed and this is just outside Mennonite country