Fair enough, I just hate seeing autism blamed for so much. It's the new ADD, many are on the spectrum and self diagnosing. So as I said many messages ago, there's no explanation needed... it was a careless act born out of a selfish need to appease a feeling, because the profile existing was ultimately inconsequential... unlike missing scissors. You acknowledge this, it sucks, and life goes on.

No I understand that, I'm saying you're blaming your inability to pay attention to what you're doing (the fact you didn't double check before deleting a profile) on autism and that should be embarrassing for you and anyone else suffering from autism who puts thought into their reactions from stimuli. The idea of 'selfishness' comes from you needing it gone before you can continue playing with your 2 visiting friends, and can't even spare a second thought.

Autism made you uncomfortable and frustrated with it being there, but being an asshole made you thoughtlessly delete it without double checking. I've said I understand why you were put off by seeing it there, and I've said why I thought you were thoughtless and reacted out of that anger/frustration... you're just not understanding.

I can understand that, I was just meaning it comes across less of an accident when an inherently selfish conscious choice leads to an unintended consequence. I'm saying the choice to delete the profile immediately out of the discomfort and frustration is where you were the asshole. I have similar feelings about change and it leads to a lot of disagreements with my partner, but if one of those disagreements was born out of what feels like a spiteful act it'd be more difficult to get over.

He's more than likely not ending a relationship over this, it'd probably need to be a pattern of behaviour before it got that serious... or he was looking for a reason to leave. But in this situation, I'd want to know why you needed to delete the profile immediately, as it affects nothing considering yours has never affected his Switch, instead of just playing with your friends on your profile until you could speak to him about why he would make changes without discussing it with you since it's a known issue. how to delete a profile.

But this entire engagement was due to me saying you deleting the profile was thoughtless and spiteful. If change were the issue, not having 2 profiles on your Switch after 2 years would've been uncomfortable, but you never created a second profile for your Switch... but the moment you see 2 profiles you're immediately compelled to learn how to delete it. That indicates something more than change bothered you.

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ETA I'm glad it worked out for the most part. Autism affects you in unexpected ways sometimes, but you can't blame autism for conscious reactions. You knew you were deleting a profile. This was a situation where you just didn't pay attention during a kneejerk reaction.

It was a selfish choice that led to a mistake. I'm sorry you suffer from autism and it causes those feelings, but you chose to delete that profile... and that's why I said it isn't right to blame autism for asshole choices. Autism put you in a bad place and that cannot be controlled, but what you chose to do there is on you. You're 27...

It wasn't a mistake though, you intentionally deleted a profile because you wanted it gone. It was an asshole move to delete it even if it was your Switch, considering you still have a profile on his.

No, I don't think it's a twisted "I'll show him hahaha", I think it's a "Why does he have an account on my Switch? Help me get rid of it, now." Which still makes it a selfish and petty act that led to a massive FU. Autism makes you have the reaction to the stimulus but you still chose what you were going to do next, you made the choice to delete it without speaking to him after assuming he was the one being thoughtless. You're blaming autism for your choice to be an asshole. Being frustrated and bothered by your boyfriend having a profile on your Switch was something you can't control, deleting his profile was a choice though.

I think you're looking for an excuse. If you could handle sharing a Switch and having two accounts before, why can you suddenly not stand for him to have an account on the second Switch? Asking people to understand autism is one thing, blaming autism for being an asshole is another.

But the instant you think he has a profile on yours it's time to get rid of it, eh?

Sounds like you're a bit selfish and spiteful, even though I 100% believe you didn't mean to delete his primary profile... you still deleted his profile out of spite. Who the hell won't let their partner have a profile on their Switch?

There is no explanation required, but at the end of the day it was an action you took out of anger/frustration. Not for one second did you stop to check for a second profile (yours) before deleting his, unless you had a profile on his Switch even though he's not allowed to have one on yours.

It was done on purpose. It could've easily been ignored and swapped to her profile to play until she could speak to him, but was caught up in deleting the profile for being there to begin with.

And you wanted to lash out because there was 'change'. Did you even notice if there was a second profile on the Switch? I doubt you cared, because you were angry at him for using your Switch.

Doesn't matter what the hobby is... he's reacting to the thoughtless nature of the accident that was born out of a spiteful action. She was angry and lashed out by deleting his profile, and has just done more harm than intended.

Sell the controller. Sell the replacement. Sell replacements until you're reimbursed. Leave a thank you note when you move out.

I think we can hear why you are the way you are. I don't want this to come across too cruel, but I really hope that if you have children that you give them up for adoption as well. You'll ingrain into that child what your family has ingrained into you... please don't do that to the world, the future is going to be hard enough.