wow!

wishing you the best possible outcome with your health.

what symptoms were you experiencing that made you need to go to the doctor in the first place?

you live, you learn. next time, broach the topic slowly and maybe try just asking "where do you see this going"

for now, see if he's open to take things slower. let him know you're really into him and respect his boundaries and hopefully he's willing to give it another try.

Julia Alvarez (in the time of the butterflies, how the Garcia girls lost their accent) is an author I enjoy.