thirtyeighthours
thirtyeighthours t1_j6hck33 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in I (23m) downloaded a dating app after a year of dating 4 months ago and my (23f) girlfriend broke up with me today by [deleted]
The problem is that you think you can explain away your actions. If you can even consider doing this behind someone's back, you do not respect that person. You lack empathy and accountability. Take a good hard look at yourself.
thirtyeighthours t1_j6hbikq wrote
Reply to I (23m) downloaded a dating app after a year of dating 4 months ago and my (23f) girlfriend broke up with me today by [deleted]
You didn't love her and you can not say you "genuinely care about her" after actively making choices that would hurt her. Love is a deep level of care and immense respect. You are attached to her maybe, but you obviously have no idea what love is.
Leave her alone, stay single until you can offer someone the kind of love that you KNOW they deserve.
thirtyeighthours t1_j6he4d6 wrote
Reply to comment by [deleted] in I (23m) downloaded a dating app after a year of dating 4 months ago and my (23f) girlfriend broke up with me today by [deleted]
No, this is where you're wrong. Love means never intentionally hurting your partner. One bad decision (not a mistake) DOES over-shadow the other 99%.
Your ex can (and so can other women) find a partner who never intentionally hurts her. In your next relationship you need to make sure you don't do anything that would hurt that person or that would cause them to end it.