So true. Thank you for your comment.

I agree! We have had an extremely in depth conversation along with several other conversations through regarding everything in this post and more. At times, it has temporarily helped and then at times it makes things worse. This is all on me because I’m the one in the relationship with all the doubt. I ask him if there is anything that I do that makes him question and he has not one thing to say. It is seemingly perfect apart from our sex life in his perspective.

I would love to have a third party present (like a therapist) to be there for these conversation because there is never any lasting resolve

Yeah I agree. I’m currently on a waitlist for a sec therapist in my town. It’s been almost a year and she still has not opening. I’m also on a tight budget with school so my options are quite limited.

I would say not willing but using the excuse of our very limited budget right now. He spends money on other things so I know it can be done.

I’m currently in therapy now (super cheap because I’m in grad school). It’s not very effective at the moment. I have expressed that I want to go to a sex therapist or couples therapy when we get into arguments regarding our sex life but he is not willing to pay for that right now.

Yes. We have communicated about all of this before. And I believe that the cons can be overcome. I just have doubts still. That’s the main issue I wrestle with

I thought it would be too long but here are some pros:

-he is intelligent -we have similar world views -he has a great sense of humor and knows how to make me laugh -he is clean -he is an amazing cook and loves making me meals -he is responsible -I feel taken care of by him -his family is great and adores me -he has a great group of friends that I get along with -he has been incredibly supportive with my own career goals