wachenikusemapoa
wachenikusemapoa t1_je9ux4s wrote
Reply to comment by Ok-Astronaut-2837 in I (36M) rated my girlfriend (24F) a 6/10 at the start of us dating. by ThrowRA_womanpokedex
He could tell her she's beautiful everyday but she would never believe him now. Some things can't be fixed.
wachenikusemapoa t1_j2fo6f7 wrote
Reply to (46M) (33F) Partner/boyfriend unwilling to commit after 8 years and has trapped me in a very unsafe financial situation by [deleted]
>He is a great partner and good father...
OP, I know you are only saying this because you feel trapped and like you have no choice but to make yourself content with the situation you are in.
Someone else said to gather evidence of all the expenses you have been paying for. Please do so and then talk to a lawyer. Don't just assume you have no case and your little one will be taken from you. Also, it doesn't sound like this man wants the responsibility, considering how he has been preparing for an easy separation. I think he is taking advantage of you while he can but if you leave he may very well wash his hands of both you and your baby.
It sounds like you are also grieving some of your hopes and dreams, marriage and a loving little family.
I highly recommend the book Should I Stay Or Should I Go? A Guide to Knowing If Your Relationship Can--And Should--be Saved by JAC Patrissi and Lundy Bancroft. Get it today, it will help you find the path forward that you're looking for.
wachenikusemapoa t1_je9wota wrote
Reply to comment by ThrowRA_womanpokedex in I (36M) rated my girlfriend (24F) a 6/10 at the start of us dating. by ThrowRA_womanpokedex
It was very immature of you to "rate" her in the first place let alone tell her about it. And if you're not willing to show her love in the way she appreciates, especially after saying something that makes her feel she's not your top choice, then just let her go. You don't sound like you're willing to put in any effort to show her you care. You're no good for her.